It's funny how I stubbornly thought that having a wedding (complete with traditions & dinner banquet) is simply "going through the motions" for the people around us to see. Thinking that being with one another for 10+ years, what else can change between us.
Although I must admit, every girl, at some point in her life, has fantasies of wearing her "dream wedding dress" complete with her prince charming at her side. I am not an exception.
But the hassle of all the "needed-to-be-done" tasks were making me dread having a wedding.
My close friends all know how many "to-dos" I had before the big day, it was killing the joy of things.
Somehow, on that day, all thanks to my galfriends (can't do without u, ladies!) I could float around & simply do whatever N & I were told. They covered me very well, that in the morning I was hardly stressed.
Dinner was another story entirely, delays & delays & delays. Sorry to all those who were putting up with your hunger...
Strangely enough, after the whole madness of the day & "going through the motions", the dynamics between the 2 of us feels different. I do not deny that being called Mrs Thia felt 'nice', but it seems more than that. Like somehow having the day's event actually happen, our mindsets tweaked? I'm not sure how to explain. Was it reciting the vows or doing the tea ceremony? I don't know.
Like N told me, after the the 'guo da li', he actually felt that he had to take care of me, after asking for my hand, from my dad.
Like I knew I was going to spend the rest of my life with him, but now I really am going to.
Tuesday, January 13, 2009
Monday, January 12, 2009
Whoa What A Day!
Wow... the day is over. All preparations (or lack therof) can never be ready for the chaos of the day.
The confusion, mess and unexpected happenings of the day.
To be honest, the only time I was truly stressed out was when we were in the hotel room, trying to finalise which video clip to be used during our dinner. Making sure all the video & music files work.
And my makeup artist was late, so I did not get to do tea ceremony for quite a number of relatives, as pre-planned.
We wanted to start at 8pm but unfortunately, due to all the delays, we only marched in at 8:30PM.
Then the rest, for those who were there, is history.
Although I personally thought the whole evening was rather messy, things were not in place, and generally everything needed our attention.
What did you ladies think?
Oh, and we were both trembling on stage while reciting vows, thank goodness our JP did not leave in a huff although things were delayed by half hour.
Finally, after all these years... Mr & Mrs Thia :)
The confusion, mess and unexpected happenings of the day.
To be honest, the only time I was truly stressed out was when we were in the hotel room, trying to finalise which video clip to be used during our dinner. Making sure all the video & music files work.
And my makeup artist was late, so I did not get to do tea ceremony for quite a number of relatives, as pre-planned.
We wanted to start at 8pm but unfortunately, due to all the delays, we only marched in at 8:30PM.
Then the rest, for those who were there, is history.
Although I personally thought the whole evening was rather messy, things were not in place, and generally everything needed our attention.
What did you ladies think?
Oh, and we were both trembling on stage while reciting vows, thank goodness our JP did not leave in a huff although things were delayed by half hour.
Finally, after all these years... Mr & Mrs Thia :)
Tuesday, January 6, 2009
48 hours to D-Day!!!
It's been a roller-coaster ride the last couple of days.
So many happenings, all very stressful... with every day comes more situations that we have to tackle...
Who-ever said organizing a wedding was easy....
Anyhow, N & I will get thru it... despite all the many many challenges of the events of the day, ultimately i remind myself, its just about us...
BTW we went down to ROM to collect our solemnization documents today, all couples there seem so happy... y isit that we are the only ones who r so stressed out...
To all my galfrens out there preparing for your big day, chin up!
So many happenings, all very stressful... with every day comes more situations that we have to tackle...
Who-ever said organizing a wedding was easy....
Anyhow, N & I will get thru it... despite all the many many challenges of the events of the day, ultimately i remind myself, its just about us...
BTW we went down to ROM to collect our solemnization documents today, all couples there seem so happy... y isit that we are the only ones who r so stressed out...
To all my galfrens out there preparing for your big day, chin up!
Saturday, January 3, 2009
Countdown! 7 days to my big day!
Only 7 more days to my big day... *wow*
It feels so surreal. Many people ask if I'm excited... I don't really know how to answer that question. Deep down inside, I guess I am excited, but then I'm being bogged down by lotsa outstanding stuff needed to be done that the excitement has not taken over yet.
Or maybe it just hasn't sunk in that 9th Jan is almost here. Don't get me wrong, N is helping out with stuff. Maybe I'm what you would call a Bridezilla... hahah crazy neurotic bride-to-be who wants everything to be 'perfect' on her big day.
In this quiet hour in the morning, I realise that this is the day I have been dreaming of & looking forward to for the past 10 years. So yah, I can understand why I am a little neurotic at times... since J1, I have been waiting for this day. Wow... it's finally a week away.
This feeling, few can understand... amongst my girlfriends, only 1 or 2 have relationships as long as mine or even longer *bow in respect* At times, it was difficult, but its been more good than bad... otherwise it would not have lasted like it did.
When N & I started out, I knew we were both not looking for short-term relationship. But I never really expected to have a relationship this long... so he is my first BF. Call me nuts but I knew, in sec 4/J1, that this was a guy that I loved & would take care of me for the rest of my life.
~the big day~
It feels so surreal. Many people ask if I'm excited... I don't really know how to answer that question. Deep down inside, I guess I am excited, but then I'm being bogged down by lotsa outstanding stuff needed to be done that the excitement has not taken over yet.
Or maybe it just hasn't sunk in that 9th Jan is almost here. Don't get me wrong, N is helping out with stuff. Maybe I'm what you would call a Bridezilla... hahah crazy neurotic bride-to-be who wants everything to be 'perfect' on her big day.
In this quiet hour in the morning, I realise that this is the day I have been dreaming of & looking forward to for the past 10 years. So yah, I can understand why I am a little neurotic at times... since J1, I have been waiting for this day. Wow... it's finally a week away.
This feeling, few can understand... amongst my girlfriends, only 1 or 2 have relationships as long as mine or even longer *bow in respect* At times, it was difficult, but its been more good than bad... otherwise it would not have lasted like it did.
When N & I started out, I knew we were both not looking for short-term relationship. But I never really expected to have a relationship this long... so he is my first BF. Call me nuts but I knew, in sec 4/J1, that this was a guy that I loved & would take care of me for the rest of my life.
~the big day~Thank you!
Thank you to all my galfriends! *muak*
Really appreciate all of you taking time-out to join me last night!
Hope you had fun & learnt something useful for yourselves.
I'll disseminate info to all my helpers by today, please check your emails k?
*MUAK*
Really appreciate all of you taking time-out to join me last night!
Hope you had fun & learnt something useful for yourselves.
I'll disseminate info to all my helpers by today, please check your emails k?
*MUAK*
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